by Payal Desai saw a video on social media that stopped in her tracks.
The role was from a parent who overlooked her head with text, that was: “When my sons watch me, how to do my make -up and asked if they could do their next …”
The content creator and the mother of two boys aged five and nine knew that she had to film an answer. She couldn’t agree.
“Whenever I came across content, cannot do the boys or be able to be in a certain way, I am immediately curious why you have such a strict opinion,” she said to Huffpost UK.
“After a decades and a half, I taught with children who could be generalized by gender.”
She added that everyone who spends a long time with boys will see and recognize all the different sides of them how harmful stereotypes assign and convert opinions into biology (as Niobe Way says). “
“If we allow ourselves to match what society considers to be” appropriate “for boys, it is only to use them in the expectations and to confuse their ability to be authentic,” she said.
Why parents should have young stereotypes smashed
For Desai there are so many positive aspects of being curious to be curious about things that have traditionally been seen as “female interests” such as make -up.
“One: You have the opportunity to reduce traditional gender standards and roles associated with them,” said the content creator in a role and added that these standards “did not work” for women.
She added that “Boys say that they cannot do girls. Things are a seed that girls are bad or stupid, worthless, less as – misogynis.”
The teacher based in New Jersey suggested that the sayings of “yes” and the recognition of young make -up can also help convey the message that “he can be open and authentic with them”.
“He is loved who he is and what he is interested in – nearby, it may not be a make -up.
“I don’t talk about gender identity or even sexuality, I mean everything that feels different, but he will know that your love and support make no dependent on it.
“I don’t know about you, but communicate that this is my main goal as a parent.”
And finally she said that “yes” also helps to build trust and a feeling of self -worth.
The teacher added: “Mobbers are victims to the weakness. Never on self -confidence. Upitizing a self -confident child is a careful work.” She then added that boys will “be more ready to accept others”.
“He could get out of this current interest in make -up, which is probably only he is who wants to connect with them … But if he does not see a man or a transperson who wears make -up, he does not see to judge himself so quickly or to harass himself.”
This idea that boys cannot do certain things and girls (and vice versa) has a lot of pitfalls.
After a report on the Commission for gender -specific stereotypes in early childhood,The expectations of the sexes can “restrict children considerably”.
“The report notes that stereotypes contribute to the psychological health crisis in children and adolescents who are problems of girls with body image and eating disorders, higher suicide and violence against women and girls,” said the Fawcett Society.
“Stereotypical assumptions also significantly limit the career decisions and contribute to the gender -specific wage gap.”
The importance of prospect
Desai said to Huffpost UK that she wanted to talk about it because “it is important that we accept and validate a child’s interests and skills”.
“This is the root to build up the self -esteem and self -confidence of a person. They increase their self -esteem by telling them that what they think, do and feel is important,” she added.
“Many like this, but for me playing with make -up is not exactly harmful or poisonous. In any case, many parents allow their little girl to play with false or real make -up, so I don’t see why boys can’t.”
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